to figure it out

1. Make sure she does think you think she is a wallflower not the most admired and beautiful girl in the world
2. Make sure she is not the star of your life, cast her in the part of the understudy or second lead
3. Make sure she never gets any expensive gifts or compliments nor show any flattering appreciation
4. Make sure to keep her inside four walls and under one roof as a grey mouse who's top role is to keep the house tidy